I want to share with you a letter-writing process that brings your unconscious and subconscious mind to a conscious state.  A lot of us who hold traumas are stuck in a victim mentality. It happened to us, right? To be able to heal, we need to look back at our caretakers, the ones who raised us, usually our mom or dad or even our grandma or grandpa. Do each caretaker one letter at a time, you will need one foot on the ground to ground yourself during this powerful process. Trust me.

The first part of your letter-writing process is to BE THE VICTIM, like full on. You need to blame, you need to get angry, you need to scream, you need to WEEP. Put yourself in the scenarios again that you were conditioned to not feel. We need to feel the pent-up energy, the suppressed emotions from the traumas that happened to us. Those emotions are Valid! 

In the second part of this letter-writing process, you will research why that caretaker did what they did to you. Where did it stem from? It’s usually from how they were raised, or sometimes it even skips a generation and their parents were raised like that. This is the section where you find the root of why they did the things they did to you. This section builds empathy. 

In the third part of the letter-writing process, what gifts did you receive from this trauma? This section is the hardest, but there is always a superpower that comes from the trauma. For example, I was left alone most of my childhood in the absence of my dad and my mom, so I would wander and quickly learn how to meet people and be included. My superpower is charisma because I had to, to survive. I don’t believe I would have this gift if I were raised differently. The end goal of this letter-writing process is forgiveness and that’s where your awareness develops.